Master Coach Vesela

The 5 Aspects of an Effective Communicator

Mon, 16 Apr 2018 18:56:03 -0700

We are communicating every day, all the time. Even when we are silent, we are communicating something. If we avoid communicating, that communicates something. If we speak continuously without pausing, that communicates something. If we do not look at people when they speak that also communicates something. We can't not communicate.

Effective communicators are moving in the direction of getting the responses they want. Ineffective communicators either have no clear target, do not pay attention to the responses they're getting, do the same thing over and over again and blame themselves for doing it wrong, or find fault in someone else.

1. Know Your Target Outcome

When you are an effective communicator you know what you want. You know the response you intend to get. You know your target. You go into a meeting and you are very aware of the result you’d like to achieve. You know what you want to happen in your interactions. Sometimes this may mean recognizing that you do not consciously know what’s your desired outcome of a certain situation and that’s when you need to ask yourself, “What do I want? What is my desired outcome? What is my target?”

2. Be Flexible

Effective communicators are flexible. If what they're doing is not working, they do something else. If what they're doing is working and is moving them closer to their outcome, they keep on doing it (unless they get tired of doing it in one way and want to be more creative). If what they're doing isn't working, then it is time to change. Flexibility implies varying your approach. You can be flexible in the way you think, feel and act. For example, you might change your thinking from: “This is not going to work” to “How will I make this work?”. We all can get stuck in patterns of our thinking, actions and feelings (rigidity) that limit our effectiveness as a...Read More

7 Tips for Staying Sane in the Crypto World

Sat, 07 Apr 2018 17:01:46 -0700

It’s up and down, up and down. One day you are the king of the world, next day you are gripped by fear. Exhilaration and agony of defeat dance with each other.

Welcome to the crypto roller coaster car! Fasten your seat belt and get ready for the ride!

It’s the ride you can’t control and yet you want to make the most of it. We are humans. We love predictability and we love the feeling of being in control. Whenever we feel out of control, we get stressed. Stress of course is much higher if the stakes are higher.

Having said that, stress itself is not a function of events; it’s a function of the view you take of these events. The truth is that we can’t always control what is happening to us, but we can always try to be mindful, self-aware and centered, and in this way we can control our reaction to the external environment. This is extremely important in times of crypto volatility because the fluctuations can make us very emotional and can make us be more reactive instead of proactive.

Below are 7 tips that can help you stay sane in the ever changing crypto world:

1. Identify the stress factor

Whenever we feel stress, anxiety or other overwhelming feeling rising inside of us, it is important to stop, make a deliberate pause and ask ourselves: What is causing me stress right now? Sometimes we will be able to answer that question straightaway, and sometimes it will be a little bit more challenging to identify the stress factor, because it might be something that we are not consciously aware of. At this moment it will be very important to remain curious and patient, and do our best to connect with ourselves, and do a gentle inquiry as to what exactly is happening within.

2. Ask yourself: Can I control what is happening to me?

Another important element of stress management while hodling is the ability to...Read More